Go out for dinner and then?
When you go out to eat, there are a number of rules of conduct that everyone knows, such as not talking with your mouth full but also not blowing it when your food is too hot, never mashing your food and (especially at a buffet) not stacking your plate very high. do you also know the following rules?
If a warm course is served you do not have to wait with food until everyone has their plate in front of them, if you feel insecure about this, wait for someone else to start. However, when a cold course is served, you should wait for the host to indicate that you can eat. The host is usually the one who pays for the food or has organized the dinner. Always chew or swallow your food before taking a sip, it is correct behavior if you first wipe your mouth before taking a sip from your glass.
But what should you do if you have to go to the toilet while eating? If possible, you wait until after dinner or, if necessary, between a corridor, there is really no other option, excuse yourself but never say “I have to go to the toilet.” Just excuse me for a second ?? is sufficient.
It is certainly useful to know what you can or cannot eat with your hands:
- You can eat bread with your hands, break it into small pieces and then spread it with butter if necessary.
- Bacon even if it has fat on it, you use a knife and fork, if it is crispy it can be mashed into small pieces with a fork and then eaten by hand.
- You eat small snacks by hand, if they are served on a bowl you first put them on the plate and then you eat them.
- There are a number of foods intended to be eaten by hand, such as corn, spare ribs, lobster, oysters, chicken wings or legs, sandwiches, fruit, olives, celery and biscuits.
If you sit on the couch with your plate in the evening and you hold your fork in your right hand, no one will be surprised. This is different when you eat out. But what else belongs in your right and left hands?
- Right: soup ladle, pastry fork, teaspoon, oyster fork, lobster hook, the sherbet spoon and all knives including fish, butter and cheese knife.
- Left: fork and snail tongs
A table set with a lot of cutlery can look quite impressive. Still, the order makes sense. You always start with the cutlery that is on the outside and you work towards the inside.
It’s always nice to keep your napkin in front of your mouth when you want to remove something from it.
And then you are done eating, how do you show this? Place soup spoons, teaspoons and dessert spoons on the edge of your plate or dish. Never leave them in the bowl or cup. Don’t push plates away from you or start piling them up. When you’re done, put the knife and fork in the (ten past four) position, with the knife on the outside and the fork on the inside. Or place the cutlery side by side in the center of your plate, the fork with the teeth down, and the knife on the right, with the cutting edge towards the fork.
What are you doing with your napkin? You always place a napkin unfolded on your lap. If it is a large napkin, fold it half open and place it on your lap with the fold facing you. When you have finished eating, place the napkin, loosely folded to the left of the plate. Never on the plate.
What do you absolutely never do:
- Place used cutlery on the tablecloth. The only correct place is on the edge of your plate.
- Stirring teeth at the table. not even behind your napkin
- Touch up your makeup or hair at the table
- Put salt / pepper on the food before you have tasted it
- Blow your nose on a napkin
- Elbows on the table while eating
- Slurping soup
- Drumming your fingers on the table or playing with the cutlery
- Leave your napkin unused because it is so beautifully folded
- Using your cell phone
- Say “I’m full” if you are offered anything else. Better, “No thank you, it was delicious.”
- Bend all the way across the table or reach in front of someone to access the salt shaker
- Extend your legs under the table
- Point with your cutlery
- Yawning (certainly not as a host or hostess)
If you’re nervous, things can always go wrong, maybe you spill something on yourself, dab it with your napkin and possibly ask the waiter for some water. Never dip your napkin in your own glass of water. You can also accidentally throw something over someone else, do not go and dab the other person clean, but apologize and ask if you can reimburse the dry cleaning costs. When you drop your cutlery, ask for clean cutlery. And if you break something, just tell the waiter honestly.
It seems like a lot of rules, but with a little good will and paying attention to how others do it, it cannot fail and there is only one thing left: Enjoy your meal and above all enjoy it!